You’ve tolerated the days whining’s and sibling rivalry, but then you trip over some toys lying in the hallway (which you have asked to be cleared away for the 100th time!). You try not to yell and bite your tongue. Your trying your best to be a more patient parent.
It can be easy to lose your temper at this stage (after all were only human!) We try to be more patient with our kids everyday but just end up yelling at them and then end up feeling guilty about how we’ve just handled the situation. Then it all starts again!
We want to be more patient with our children and set a good example- don’t we?
You see, children tend to copy what they see and not what they hear. And we know that!
I have listed 3 steps to becoming a more patient parent and to try and keep our cool.
- Take time out for you.
This is so essential because as mothers we are always giving and tend to put our needs on the back burner. Taking the time out to do something you love, like a hobby, go out with friends, book yourself at the salon, go for a walk or simply just read a book alone can do wonders to fill up your tank. I call it refueling! Taking care of me- not only helps me not yell at my kids so much, but also makes me a happier, calmer and more loving parent. Remember you can’t “pour from an empty cup”.
2. Check up on your emotions.
We tend to bottle things up and sweep it under the carpet, but by doing this we’re bound to yell at our kids. Personal triggers like feeling tired, exhausted, overweight, marital problems, money issues are some of the triggers that can set you off. Facing and dealing with these emotions and issues can do wonders to your mental and emotional state. Simply talking to a friend or writing a daily diary of what and why your feeling this way can help you identify the underlying issue. Writing in itself is a form of therapy. I have an extra tip for you that works for me. Grab a pen and paper and write about the first thing that come’s to mind and just keep writing away, then after I simply rip. It’s like a list of issues you had in your head are somewhat eased by visually seeing it on paper and throwing it away. It’s like writing a shopping list. I find this so therapeutic and it helps me to de-stress.
I know this sounds cliché but it’s true. Excercise releases endorphins and helps de-stress. It’s a good way to let all those pent up feelings and emotions out and release the happy hormones. We need more of them!
Remember how we react to a situation is completely in our hands. Yelling at our kids may get the response we want at that time but what are we teaching our kids? That shouting will get you what you want?
Believe in yourself and hopefully with implementing the steps above you can become a more patient parent. We’re not perfect, we’re only human. As long as you are trying your best, your already there!
I’d love to hear what other ways mothers use to becoming more of a patient parent?